What’s the first thought you have when you think about your ex? Is it regret, embarrassment, shame, or a whole bunch of feelings that you can’t describe? Or do you think that even though your ex was great, your relationship together just didn’t work? This young mother, Jessica Singleton, who is a mother to an adorable little boy named Pierson, recently described her ex in an emotional Facebook post and managed to get almost the entire internet to appreciate him.
“This is my ex. This right here is more valuable than gold,” she began her post and beautifully described how even though they aren’t partners anymore, they are still partners when it comes to their little boy.
He’s always just a call away and even if she calls a dozen times, he sounds like the guy who would pick up each time. “This is a man who doesn’t pay a dime through the state because when my son needs new clothes, I just call him. This is a man who buys a bundle of kids’ movies on Vudu so even I can enjoy them with my son in my own home,” the woman continued to say. “A man who drops off the $45 box of pull-ups at my front door so I don’t have to load him up and go to the store.”
Whether it was her busy schedule or she just wanted that much-needed nap, her ex has swooped in to make her life easier. Even if it was 10 minutes of notice, he would take time out of his schedule to step in so she could get some time off.
During those moments where Jessica broke down, her ex was there to take some of that stress away. “This is a man who listens to me cry because I’m stressed out. This is a man who tells his son not to forget mommy’s boyfriend when he lists his favorite people off the top of his head… A man who rushes over because we got locked out of the house or spends his evening fixing something for us,” she added.
There were some things that mommy couldn’t do for her boy but daddy was there to fill the gaps. “This is a man who labeled the presents he bought his son from ‘mommy’ because mommy couldn’t get him as many,” Jessica went on to say. “A man who still watches my sister’s kids so our son can be with his cousins. One who accompanies me to meet strangers from Craigslist to ensure we are safe. This is the diaper-bag-wearing, chocolate-milk-making, selfless, protective, generous, accomplished FATHER to my son.”
It’s not so easy to have such an understanding relationship with your ex where you’re able to put your differences aside and put your child first. But these two people decided to remember that they were parents rather than focus on how they were two people who broke up. “The amount of obstacles we’ve had to overcome to get to this point are tremendous,” Jessica explained. “This was not easy, this was a choice. Stop giving excuses and come together for your children. I’m the most stubborn person that I know and forgiveness came easy to us for the sake of our son. And because of that, I see my son every single day. We always welcome each other’s presence.”
And finally, she took a moment to thank him for being her parent-in-crime and giving their son a wonderful man that he can look up to. “In case, I haven’t told you lately, I’m grateful for you,” she said. “Most importantly for the motivated individual you are and how you provide Pierson with a phenomenal role model, despite the foundation you once had. I love the amount of love my son will always have from you.”
The website ScaryMommy which also shared this post made a very interesting observation. It said this post is an example of ideal co-parenting. They said that parenting a child is quite difficult in itself. And when someone is a single parent, it is just tougher. For so many irresponsible exes, there are a few gems like this man who understands his role as a parent very well.