There’s a common misconception in our society that love, true love, should be something close to perfection. People have expectations of a lifetime spent with a partner filled with nothing but bliss, loving embraces, and total understanding.
In reality however, things are never that simple. Sure, true love involves all of those things. It also involves a whole lot of difficult decisions, touch compromises, forgiveness, and hurt.
Nothing and no one in this world is perfect. Love can never be all sunshine and rainbows. When two people come together, two hearts, two minds, two souls, it’s the most difficult undertaking that either of them will ever experience.
There is nothing more puzzling in this life than relationships. You’re forced to accept the person you love as they are – completely and totally. But how do you do that when the person you love isn’t perfect? How do you accept their flaws and shortcomings when they can be so difficult to swallow?
Human beings are complicated creatures. We’re incredibly complex. We have huge, intricate networks of thoughts, emotions and behaviors that make up everything we are or ever will be.
The process of two people coming together and bonding in such an intimate and personal way is never easy. There will always be disagreements. There will always be dark days and lonely nights, when the person you love so much feels so distant from you.
People think that true love should mean you never argue, never disagree, and never fall out with each other. But avoiding conflict and disagreement isn’t the important thing. What is important is how you approach the problems you have as a couple and address any issues.
There’s a reason that half of all marriages end in divorce. How many of those couples stood there on their wedding day and thought that they wouldn’t make their love last forever?
It takes maturity, strength, compassion and a deep capacity for understanding to make love work. You need to be able to put yourself in each other’s shoes and come to see the problems you face as a couple as obstacles to be overcome together, not reasons to be at each other’s throats.
True love is about making a shared commitment to fight for each other. It’s about sticking around through thick and thin, not giving up when things get tough.
It’s about enjoying the highs and struggling through the lows. It’s about being there for each other in the darkest moments, when things feel like they can’t get any worse and there’s no way out.
Because true love isn’t about perfection. It isn’t about two people so right for each other that they never have any problems.
True love is about wanting to throw in the towel but refusing to give up. It’s about forgiveness, about understanding that both you and your partner are only human, only doing the best they can with what they have at any given moment in their life.
True love is about surviving anything that life throws at you as a couple because you know that you’re in it together. It’s about never leaving your love to suffer alone.
Their misery is your misery, and your sadness is their sadness.
But their joy is also your joy, and those beautiful, happy moments together make all of the hard times worth it.