So many women don’t recognize or understand what they’re truly worth. They place so much value on being in a relationship with a guy that they’re willing to allow themselves to be messed around endlessly.
It’s a heartbreakingly common scenario. A guy that treats his wife or girlfriend like sh*t, and the woman who puts up with it and allows herself to remain stuck in the same sorry place – no matter how much she might wish things were different.
Even women that aren’t in relationships can fall victim to this trap. Almost every straight woman has been through the experience of talking to and dating a guy they really like that seems to keeping them at a distance. One minute everything is great. Sparks are flying, there’s tension in the air, and you start to dream that this guy might actually be the one for you. The next, he’s blanking your texts, leaving calls unanswered, and doesn’t seem to want to meet up.
Whether you’re dating or in a relationship, if a guy is playing games with you, there’s only one thing that needs to happen. You need to realize just how valuable you are.
You need to know your worth. You need to have the self-respect to stop allowing people to treat you with anything less than love, respect, patience, kindness, and honesty. If a guy isn’t over the moon at even having the chance to talk to you, then walk away. Don’t settle for someone that isn’t willing to put as much effort into things as you are. They clearly don’t value you as much as you value them.
It’s normal to cry. It’s normal to beg. It’s normal to tell yourself that you’re done with him, only to find that you desperately want him back and your heart races every time you see a message from him.
Be the woman who loves herself. Be the person who won’t settle for someone so immature that they don’t recognize a great catch when they see one.
If he’s ignoring you, if he makes you his last priority, if you see him constantly disrespecting you, or taking you for granted, or using you, then don’t give him any more chances to change. Don’t let him fool you into thinking he really cares. If he cared, he’d have shown you from the start. Walk out the door and never look back.
So many guys will push their luck as far as they can. They’ll see how much they can bend you before you break. It’s only once you’ve had enough and finally tell them that you’re done with their immaturity and selfishness that will acknowledge they’ve been horrible to you. They will sense they’re about to lose you (or, at least, the things you do for them and the way you make them feel good about themselves) and will cry and beg and promise you that they’re sorry and that they will change.
If a man truly respects you, it’s obvious. It’s in every word he says. It’s in everything he does. He will consistently show you that he loves you, that he prioritizes you, and that you mean the world to him. He will be kind to you, he will be patient with you, and he will be honest and sincere and open.
Don’t keep getting your heart broken by someone who’s not even willing to really give their heart to you. Don’t let yourself be manipulated by some scumbag who’s only using you for their own gratification.
Know your worth. Find someone who truly loves you. Find someone who truly wants you. Someone who will treat you like the diamond you are and not a piece of trash.