Toxic people come in many forms. Whether they’re narcissists, sociopaths devoid of emotion, or simply childish, they’re everywhere and they’re hard to avoid crossing paths with at points throughout your life. The best way to deal with them is simply to avoid their presence (and therefore their negative influence) as much as you possibly can. Here are seven of the most common traits of toxic people so that you can see them coming a mile away and steer clear!
This is the bread and butter of any toxic person – manipulating others to their advantage. Manipulation can be hard to detect as it’s very often subtle, but over a long enough period of time the red flags begin to pile up and you’ll notice that something is wrong. Watch out for playing on your emotions and trying to guilt you into doing things for them.
Someone who is quick to judge others is someone who doesn’t put themselves in other people’s shoes. Jumping to conclusions and writing people off due to the things they do without looking at it from their perspective or considering that it may have been a reasonable course of action given their circumstances is a common example of toxic behaviour.
A lack of humility
It’s important to be secure in yourself and your abilities, and comfortable in your own skin. Being arrogant, immodest, and quick to talk about how superior to others you are, however, is behaviour that always leads to upset. If a person thinks they’re the bee’s knees and is unapologetically vocal about it, it’s very likely that they’re a selfish, self-important, and toxic person. Anyone unable to take a humble view of themselves has an inflated sense of self-worth. We’re all only human. No one is perfect.
They take no responsibility for their actions and rarely apologise
A person that is always placing the blame for things they’ve done onto other people is someone that doesn’t hold themselves responsible for the (negative) consequences of their actions. People make mistakes. It’s part of being human. The proper way to handle having caused harm to others, unintentionally or otherwise, is to be mature, to apologise to anyone you’ve wronged, and to accept that you made a mistake. Trying to hide from the truth and shifting the blame onto someone else is cowardly and toxic behaviour.
They have no problem lying
Lying comes easily to toxic people. For some, it’s as natural as breathing. They have no problem lying to you through their teeth, often with a smile. When you know someone lies often and without trouble, stay as far away from them as you can. It’s important to surround yourself with positive, honest people.
It’s all about them
When every conversation you have with someone is all one way, with them never showing any interest in what you have to say, or never asking you anything other than superficial questions before quickly turning the spotlight back upon themselves, run for the hills. It’s a big red flag of a toxic person. Life is too short to keep people who are only interested in themselves in your life.