It’s heartbreaking watching so many incredible women selling themselves short by getting into relationships with men who aren’t fit to walk the same ground as them.
Often, women feel a lot of pressure to find someone to be with, so they end up settling for guys who just aren’t worth their time. It can take them years to see it, though, which can translate to whole chunks of their life going missing, wrapped up with guys who didn’t value them, didn’t respect them, and probably didn’t even really love them.
Know your worth! Raise your expectations, and have the confidence and self-worth to stay single until you meet someone with these seven traits:
1) He’s honest
Honesty is the foundation that any relationship that’s going to last has to be built on. If a man isn’t honest, your relationship with him will be built on pillars of salt and sand. He should be open enough to wear his heart on his sleeve for you. Secrets and lies are a death knell for a budding relationship. You need to be able to trust your partner completely, and that means not having to worry that they’re hiding something from you. You should be able to trust him with your life. Your heart is in his hands. Total loyalty to each other and to the relationship is necessary if things are going to work out. Everybody makes mistakes, but the important thing is that he always owns up to them and tells you when he messes up.
2) He misses you when you’re gone
So many guys will act the part when you’re around but secretly can’t wait for you to leave so they can get back to doing the things they really want to be doing. You should wait for the man who will miss you sorely when you’re not around. Be with someone who loves you so much that having you there makes absolutely anything more fun than being alone.
3) He’s kind and compassionate
Kindness can be in short supply in this world. When it comes to the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, you shouldn’t settle for less than someone with a compassionate, caring, understanding nature. Making love work between two people for year after year is one of the hardest yet most beautiful experiences you’ll ever go through. If you can be kind and compassionate to each other no matter what happens, you’ll always be able to cry, forgive, and make up with each other when times get hard.
4) He’s committed
You should wait for someone who is as committed to being with you as you are to them. Not just committed to being faithful, but also to putting in the effort everyday that is needed in order to keep the flame of passion burning throughout all of the time you’re together. Commitment is a tricky thing. You have to know you’ve met someone really special to want to spend the rest of your life with them. If the two of you are right for each other though, it should be a no brainer.
5) He supports you
Being in a relationship with someone is about building them up and cheering them on. It’s about celebrating their successes like they’re your own and pushing them on to achieve their dreams. Encouragement and understanding of the important things in your partner’s life are vital to the success of a relationship. Wait for a guy that’s your biggest cheerleader and supports you in everything you do.
6) He respects you
The man you decide you want to be with should have nothing but respect for you. It should be someone that values you and takes the time to really learn about the person you are and develops a deep understanding of you. If your man doesn’t respect you, he doesn’t really care about you or the relationship you have together. If he doesn’t respect you, he won’t be good to you or stick ny you when the chips are down and things get rough.
7) He loves you
This should go without saying, but the main you settle down with should love you more than he loves anyone else on this earth. It isn’t just about loving you, either, but about making you feel loved and cherished. He should be able to make you feel like the most special woman in the world in his own way.
When you meet someone with these traits, you’ll know that the two of you can go the distance. Until then, however, you’ll just have to be patient.