One thing that can help people get a hold over their mental health issues is turning to a loved one for support. But when one woman talked about her anxiety to her mother, she ended up being called “selfish”.
With nobody around to help, the woman had an anxiety attack where she “couldn’t stop shaking and crying” and there was no one to talk her screaming kids off her hands at the time. She texted her mother about the episode with the title “How my ‘Family’ treats me” and the screenshot was later posted on Reddit by u/graciepaint4, with the title, ‘Insane mom thinks mental illness deserves not having a family’.
A number of people had their own opinions to share, some taking the side of the woman and some taking the side of the mother.
User daninger4995 commented on the post and said, “People with mental illness CAN and DO raise children just as well as someone without a mental illness… I hope that if any of you end up with a mental illness you have people who treat you with empathy and support…”
Some believed that her mother was not the right person for her to share her mental health issues with as it might just aggravate her problems.
User Crastin8 said, “Why did you tell your mother about your attack? I know that some people have a parent they could turn to for comfort or support, but you obviously do not. Please, going forward, do NOT share any information with your mother about your anxiety or how you manage it. It isn’t her business, and she will only hurt you with her replies. Find other support.”
However, other comments highlighted the effects of growing up with a parent who has mental health issues and they urged the woman to find adequate help for the wellbeing of herself and her children.
spilkyway commented saying, “I don’t agree with how your mom handled it, but you really do need to get help. It really isn’t fair to your kids and husband. This kind of stuff is terrifying for children. I have bipolar, PTSD, and severe anxiety. It tore my relationship apart until I got medicated and started seeking therapy. I know it’s hard to accept, but to be the best mom you can be, you need to seek help. You are not your disease and you CAN take steps to help yourself.
holdmydietcoke wrote, “I’m a woman with Bipolar I Disorder so please know that I understand. But you need to get help. Your children don’t deserve to bear your burden, it will traumatize them and make them feel that their parents can’t keep them safe. And clearly in this situation, that is correct. It’s not our fault that we’re mentally ill but it’s our responsibility that it doesn’t hurt or harm the ones we love especially your children who rely on you, and if you can’t do that then you need to really reevaluate things.”
Firestarter0394 advised the woman and said, “OP mental illness is serious and should be treated seriously. I do think you should sit down with your kids and tell them what happened and why it happened and that it’ll probably happen again and maybe even how to help you through it. Your kids were probably crying because they were scared and didn’t know what to do but if you give them a task, something as simple as getting a wet wash cloth for you will put them into action so that they’re not as scared the next time it happens. Just a thought”