You may have never met her, you may know nothing about her; but when you hear Adele sing, you are instantly taken back to that moment in your past when you felt strongly about love, be it pain, rejection or a sea of passion. If you have ever had a broken heart, you start reliving it when the singer is up on stage, singing her powerful melodies that will tug at your heartstrings.
But what allows millions of people to connect with Adele’s music is more than just her sheer talent; it’s the way she sings her heart out after having experienced every miserable feeling that her ballads talk about.
When songs like Someone Like You, Rolling in the Deep, and Set Fire to the Rain, she is retelling little parts from the story of her first “real relationship”. And writing her feelings in her album, titled 21, was an emotional experience for her.
“It broke my heart when I wrote this record… ‘Cause I’m still not fully recovered. It’s going to take me 10 years to recover, I think, from the way I feel about my last relationship,” the Grammy-award winning singer told MTV. “It was the biggest deal in my entire life to date. … He made me totally hungry. … He was older, he was successful in his own right, whereas my boyfriends before were my age and not really doing much. And he got me interested in film and literature and food and wine and traveling and politics and history, and those were things I was never, ever interested in.”
While writing the album and revisiting those painful moments in her relationship, she wondered if she would ever find love again. “How I felt when I wrote ’21,’ I wouldn’t want to feel again,” she told the New York Times, as quoted by Harper’s Bazaar. “It was horrible. I was miserable, I was lonely, I was sad, I was angry, I was bitter. I thought I was going to be single for the rest of my life. I thought I was never going to love again.”
Even when you’ve moved on after a relationship, your mind might race back to thoughts of your ex and think about where they might be, are they happy now, or if they have another man or woman in their life. And Adele imagines herself doing the same.
“I can imagine being about 40 and looking for him again, only to turn up and find that he’s settled with a beautiful wife and beautiful kids and he’s completely happy and I’m still on my own,” she told MTV about the song, Someone Like You, as quoted by Digital Spy. “The song’s about that and I’m scared at the thought of that.”
After having her heart broken a few times, Adele did fall in love again, and found herself “the most serious relationship I’ve ever been in,” with Simon Konecki, with whom she has a son named Angelo on October 19, 2012.
“The reason her relationship works with Simon is because they are on the same page,” a source previously told People. “Their priority is their son, and Adele loves being a mother. Angelo is a very happy little boy.”
When she spoke about her relationship with Konecki, she told 60 Minutes Australia, “Being in such an amazing relationship with someone that’s so there for me and so loyal and is really part of my core now, that’s what made me write about everything I’ve ever done, because I’ve got his love.”
But in 2019, roughly seven years after they went public with their relationship, the couple announced that they were getting a divorce. “Adele and her partner have separated,” said a statement emailed to The Associated Press. “They are committed to raising their son together lovingly.”
Although she’s divorced now, Adele has previously talked about her exes with Vanity Fair in 2016 and said, “There’s a reason I loved them once…” as quoted by Elite Daily. “For a while hate got in the way. But I’m an adult now, I’m a mother, and I’m a lot less b*tchy. They were interesting people, and while we’re not friends and I don’t see them regularly, I have seen them and it’s all fine.”
After the painful early breakups of her life, she was eventually able to heal from them and that she has moved on. “It sounds obvious, but I think you only learn to love again when you fall in love again,” she told The Guardian. “I’m in that place. My love is deep and true with my man, and that puts me in a position where I can finally reach out a hand to the ex. Let him know I’m over it.”