You don’t need to show grand romantic gestures or buy expensive gifts for every single one of your partner’s birthday when you love them. Helen Mirren and Taylor Hackford didn’t even need a marriage contract for so long in their relationship to prove how much they loved each other.
The two of them got together were together for more than a decade before they finally decided to take each other as husband and wife in 1997. And that, they did mostly because it made things easier. Since they knew they wanted to spend the rest of their lives with each other, making it official didn’t sound like a bad idea to them.
“We got married in the end because we realized that we were going to be together forever,” she says. “We got married, ultimately, for legal reasons more than anything else,” Mirren told AARP. “Estate planning and other complicated things like that. And our families, we sensed, wanted us to be married. I always said I have nothing against marriage; it just wasn’t to my taste, like turnips. It took me a very long time to come round to acquiring the taste. I just had to meet the right turnip.”
For Mirren, Hackford truly was the “right turnip” for her and she’s never looked back ever since they exchanged wedding vows on New Year’s Eve in 1997. Their marriage has lasted for more than two decades and Mirren revealed that typical romantic gestures were not the reason behind their strong relationship.
“Taylor and I aren’t remotely romantic with each other. And actually we appreciate the lack of romance in the other person,” she told Woman & Home. “I’d be completely horrified if Taylor gave me a Valentine’s card! We even forget to get each other birthday presents.”
The couple believes that showing each other their affection every single day is more important than an outpour of it one particular day of the year. The award-winning actress revealed, as quoted by the Daily Mail. “We even forget to get each other birthday presents – I’m always thinking the day before, ‘Oh, I must get Taylor something for his birthday.’ Without being corny, we try simply to be considerate to each other every day rather than lavishing each other with gifts.”
While they don’t need to constantly give each other gifts, they don’t feel the need to set aside a particular day of the week for date night either. Mirren added, “When we’re together, we’ll occasionally go out for dinner, but we don’t need date nights. Being with Taylor is exciting and I feel as if I’m on a permanent date with him.”
However, the actress did admit that when she feels the nerves or the occasional stage fright, it is her beloved husband who knows exactly what to do to calm her down.
“I still suffer terribly from stage fright. I get sick with fear. Not every night, but at the beginning and on occasion – not necessarily when I’m expecting it…” she confessed. “The one thing that Taylor does always do for me, though, is to send me a bouquet of yellow roses on a first night for luck. When they arrive, I know they’re from him and I love that. And they are all the more special because he’s not constantly giving me things.”
Mirren and Hackford may have married to make their families happy and to make living together easier. But today, she doesn’t regret it all and is happy she took the chance. “It was never my intention to marry anybody,” she said. “Economics are basically the only reason to get married, but I’m very glad I did it.”