The sudden loss of our dear ones can entirely change the course of our lives. Not only do we miss their presence, but the inexpressible pain of living without them is heartbreaking. Sometimes, it might be so difficult that we fail to come to terms with it. One father of five, Zak, is left with such pain after he lost the love of his life. Though it has been years since the tragedy, the man has not found the strength to tell his children that their mom is no more.
On January 2018, Zak, also known as Fakir, was awakened by the call of his 9-year-old daughter, Rhianna. The young child shouted, “Dad, dad, come up, mum has fainted,” quoted The Sun. Fakir ran upstairs to discover his wife, the mother of his five children, passed out on the floor.
The petrified husband called for help but despite the efforts of the paramedics, Fakir lost his wife Cheryl Hardy. The death of his wife, who had just given birth to their youngest child shattered him.
“I couldn’t speak to anyone for about two weeks after it happened. I refused to eat, speak to anyone properly, I just wanted to turn my phone off and disappear for about two or three weeks. I was a mess. But at the same time, I knew I couldn’t give in because of the kids. I knew that they only had me and I had to make sure I had a brave face on,” said Fakir to Mirror Online. Though she suffered from medical problems in the past, Fakir says that her death “came out of the blue”.
Soon, he took the additional role of becoming a mother for his children. But the grieving father never found the courage to admit to his children that their mother was dead. Even after 2 years of her death, the children still await the arrival of their mother.
“This might sound strange to some people, but I’ve not told any of my kids that their mum is not coming back. I’ve never said it. At the moment, I don’t think the time is right given how young they are. I don’t want them to get distracted and I’m waiting for the right time. The time will come. Every time they mention mum, I just say she’s in a better place. I don’t want them to get upset,” said the 37-year-old father.
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Fakir admits that his life today is challenging but he is committed to making his late wife proud. “The biggest challenges are getting them what they need, rather than what they want. And they go to three different schools so it’s all about handling that,” says the man. No matter how difficult it is going to be, the determined father is not willing to give up and is trying to keep the memories of his wife alive.
“I’m doing everything in my life for her to make sure they’re looked after and loved all the time. She’ll never be forgotten ever. I’ll mention her every day around the house…I see her in my kids, in her mum and her brother.,” says Fakir.
The grieving dad who misses his wife of 10 years is grateful for the life he spent with her. But her loss is still fresh in his mind. “I was married to her for ten years, it’s difficult, I’m still broken-hearted.”