Sometimes, it’s not the lack of love that pulls two people apart. Two people who still care deeply about each other can find a number of reasons coming in their way of having a happy marriage. After Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck fell in love, the path to divorce wasn’t something that Garner wanted for her family and especially their children.
“I would not have chosen this life for myself or for my kids. I would not choose to be single or be in this position. It’s something that we are working through. I haven’t been on a date and I am not interested in dating,” she told news.com.au, shaking her head. “People want to set me up and I am just like, ‘No thank you!'”
It was a day after their 10th wedding anniversary when Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck came out and announced that they planned to end their marriage. If she could rewind time and do it all over, she would. “I didn’t marry the big fat movie star; I married him,” Garner told Vanity Fair. “And I would go back and remake that decision. I ran down the beach to him, and I would again. You can’t have these three babies and so much of what we had.”
Even after deciding to separate, they couldn’t just turn off the love they had for each other. “He’s the love of my life,” Garner continued. “What am I going to do about that? He’s the most brilliant person in any room, the most charismatic, the most generous. He’s just a complicated guy. I always say, ‘When his sun shines on you, you feel it.’ But when the sun is shining elsewhere, it’s cold. He can cast quite a shadow.”
Although they had announced their decision to separate, Garner still cared about the father of her children so much that she waited for him to get into a positive headspace before they were legally divorced.
As Affleck started taking steps to battle his alcohol addiction, she waited patiently for him to heal. “He’s focused on being there for those in his life,” a source told US Weekly.
In 2018, a source also revealed, “Jen wanted to give Ben the time and opportunity to work on his health and sobriety … she isn’t in a rush. Jen just isn’t willing to settle the custody issues until she’s 100 percent certain that he’s clean. She’ll wait for him to prove he is taking it very seriously.”
She only wanted the best for Affleck, who will always be the man she shared a significant part of her life with. An insider revealed, according to Us Weekly, “He is very appreciative of Jen being so supportive and giving him a chance to get better. She has always been there for him and continues to be.”
It was only in November, 2018 that the couple finalized their divorce. Despite everything, however, co-parenting their three children, Violet, Seraphina, and Sam has always been their top priority.
The two of them still share a bond and Garner previously admitted, “We still have to help each other get through this. He’s still the only person who really knows the truth about things. And I’m still the only person that knows some of his truths.”
For Affleck, too, the connection he has with Garner hasn’t been lost under the scrutiny of divorce. In an interview with Today, Hoda Kotb told Affleck, “you can tell you still love her”, as reported by HuffPost. And his immediate response was, “Of course, she’s wonderful. Somebody’s the mother of your kids, they’re going to be the most important, central person in your life, and that’s good.”
The end of their marriage doesn’t stop Affleck from gushing over Garner as he talked about fatherhood, which is “the focus of my life”. He told Kotb, “I hope I’m a pretty good dad. I certainly try very hard. I’m lucky they’ve got a great mom, and she helps out a great deal with making sure that we co-parent in as good a way as possible. It’s what makes me happy and the rest of the stuff kind of follows.”
Garner and Affleck are still an important part of each other’s lives and they make it a point to try and spend every holiday together and “they typically go to church as a family,” a source said.
Affleck doesn’t forget how important Garner was during the difficult phase of his life and is grateful for her having been his pillar of strength. It was reported that he said in a Facebook post, “I’m lucky to have the love of my family and friends, including my co-parent, Jen, who has supported me and cared for our kids as I’ve done the work I set out to do.”