When it comes to your child, all you want is the best for them. You want them to be happy, confident and loved. You want them to find their place in the world, settle down and be content with their life. And this American father wanted just that for his daughter. But as it happens, some children welcome advice, while others don’t. The reaction this gentleman got for his advice, didn’t exactly pan out the way he thought it would. According to The Sun, taking to Reddit, he wrote about how he requested his daughter to lose weight in order to help her get a boyfriend.
This is the Reddit post:
“I (52M) currently live with my wife and with my daughter (24F), since she moved back home a couple years ago after finishing college. My daughter is very overweight (5’3 and about 200 lbs). She always talks about how she wants a boyfriend, and she has never had one.
The other day she was going on a long rant about this at the dinner table. She was saying that it’s unfair that all her friends have boyfriends and get attention from guys, and how guys are “dicks” who never give her the time of day. She’s gone on similar rants before, where she acts like it is inexplicable why she is not getting the same attention. I told her delicately that it could be helpful to try losing some weight, and that unfortunately people are often shallow and that could be something that would help her get male attention, feel more confident, and also generally be healthier.
She yelled at me about how ‘all guys are the same, even my fucking dad’ and stormed off. I was genuinely trying to be helpful, and I knew it would be a sore spot but in my mind my intentions were good. Now I am wondering whether I crossed a line.
Some info: she has no genetic predisposition to being overweight (nobody else in the family is), she has no condition that I am aware of, but rather she eats quite a bit and does not get much exercise. I have tried to encourage her to come for a run with me, and to give her healthy food options, but have never explicitly spoken to her about her weight before this.”
Once users found this post, they were certainly divided in their reactions and his story racked up hundreds of replies. Some people were outraged at his statement. One user said, “Do you honestly believe your daughter isn’t acutely aware that being overweight is a factor in her romantic prospects? Because she is. It sounds like she wants someone to accept her just as she is and you know, there actually are plenty of big girls with boyfriends and husbands. Making her feel bad about herself, implying she has to be thin to be worthy of love, isn’t helping her. Stop the hints, stop the comments. You seem bothered by her weight and she knows it.”
Another user said, “The way parents talk about their children’s weight can have truly damaging effects even if you don’t intend it. You have basically said she’s less attractive because of her weight, which is coming from a person who’s supposed to love her unconditionally. Was she even asking you for advice? Doesn’t seem like it.”
However, there were some others who were on his side and understood his intentions. One user commented, “Might be an unpopular opinion, but I’m going to say NAH. You’re right, if she loses weight her chances of getting a boyfriend will go up—probably pretty significantly—especially at her age. It sounds like she’d rather keep whining about how the world is unfair rather than actually doing something about her situation to improve how she feels and what her circumstances are.”
Another said, “You’re right, if she loses weight her chances of getting a boyfriend will go up – probably pretty significantly – especially at her age. It sounds like she’d rather keep whining about the world is unfair rather than actually doing something about her situation to improve how she feels and what her circumstances are.”
Well, what do you think about what he had to say?