When it is their big day, it is natural to see a bride wanting everything to be “perfect”. One bride, who wanted the same, seems to have gone too far with the demands for her wedding day. And the bridesmaid who was at the receiving end of her harsh decision due to her cancer battle shared her story.
Reddit user bridesmaidwoes123 was excited to be her friend’s bridesmaid. But she was taken aback when she was asked to leave the bridal party, as her battle with cancer had left her hair too short for the bride’s liking. According to the Reddit post, her friend got engaged about a year and a half ago. She was asked to be her bridesmaid and was excited to be part of her friend’s big day.
However, the woman was hit with the devastating news of cancer and began to loss hair because of the treatment. “I got some real bad news in the past year and had to undergo radiation and chemotherapy. I don’t want to go into details about this because it’s still very traumatic for me. My hair fell out and I am recovering but my hair is still very short,” she wrote.
Having battled the life-threatening disease herself, she became an active supporter of cancer survivors, and the soon-to-be bride, who was also a nurse, supported her throughout the cancer journey.
“About 2 weeks ago Karen called me and told me she was going to take me out to celebrate my remission and end of treatment and had a special surprise for me. I agree and we meet up,” wrote the woman. She went out with her friend to celebrate and enjoyed a great day of pampering at the spa. Soon after the spa date, her friend took her to a special hair salon that specializes in high-quality wigs.
The cancer survivor, who was caught off-guard by this, writes, “I am a little taken aback by this because Karen knows that a lot of the work I have been involves psychological treatment in cancer patients and avoiding the shame associated with hair loss for instance.”
Though shocked by her friend’s suggestion, the bridesmaid was kind enough to try the wigs on, just for her friend. However, she declined when her friend asked her to pick a wig.
The Reddit user goes further to say that she received a call from the bride the following day only to be told that she was no longer a bridesmaid for her friend’s wedding. “This completely floors me because basically I am her number 2 girl after her sister (who she barely gets along with),” she wrote.
Though extremely hurt by the news, she wanted to know the real reason for being excluded from the bridal party. However, the other bridesmaids were reluctant to state the actual reason for decision. “I call around and it although some of the other bridesmaids are reluctant to tell me anything hint at the fact that Karen was worried about how the pictures are going to look with someone with a bald head,” she wrote.
Though she tried calling her friend, she was left in the dark with no answer. She told Reddit users that she was confused and upset. She further went to ask other users to help if she was overthinking as she did not want to ruin her friendship with the bride.
Reddit users were furious and told the woman that she did not have to attend the wedding. They even criticized the bride’s behavior. “Too bad her pictures won’t capture her awful and superficial character. She’s a liar and I wouldn’t even attend the wedding. Her pics will look bad cause she will be in them. You don’t want your pretty face to be photographed with an ugly troll,” wrote one user. Others told her how they would have had her by their side if she was their bridesmaid. “If you were my bridesmaid we would be rocking that short hair! I would have been proud to have you stand beside me…,” wrote a user.