We all have dealt with individuals whose behavior was incredibly toxic to our wellbeing. The damage they have done to us is hidden in its subtlety – we haven’t seen it coming until they started to continuously hurt us.
If you want to spot a toxic person before they get a chance to lure you into their world of lies and manipulations and hurt you, here are 8 things to be aware of that are true of toxic people.
1. Their Actions Are Never Consistent
One day they are nice and sweet, and tomorrow they are not talking to you. Their charming and loving nature can swiftly turn into silent treatment without you even knowing why. That’s why you will be left wondering whether you have done something to upset them and that thought will plague your mind. They will never tell you why they are giving you the cold shoulder.
Please know that it’s not you – it’s them. They are the ones who are using these kinds of games to manipulate you and you with your emotions. Don’t let them fool you.
2. You Feel As Though You Owe Something To Them
They will do something for you, give you a present or something, but there will be feelings of guilt attached to it. They will give you something you always wanted and then they will ask you for something in return. And of course, because you’ll feel like you are in debt to them, you may agree to do something you hate doing.
The best thing you can do is to not accept gifts from them and also don’t do things you don’t want to do just because they asked you. Stand up for yourself.
3. They Project Their Feelings On You
A toxic person may turn to you and speak to you in an aggressive manner like you are the one that has a problem with them. They may even make you feel bad and you may start asking yourself what you did to make them feel like that. Of course, you didn’t do anything wrong, but they are projecting their feelings of anger and hate on you.
My advice is to let it go. If someone says something that is not true, know that it has nothing to do with you but everything to do with them. There is no need to defend yourself and give them the attention they desperately seek.
4. They Never Apologize Because, In Their Mind, They Are Never Wrong
Facts don’t mean anything to toxic people. They think they are always right and therefore, the words “I am sorry” will never come out of their mouth. They may even go as far as to blame others for their mistakes and twist the truth so much so that you won’t know what has happened in reality.
However, deep down in your heart, you know what’s the truth. Stick to it.