8 Clear Signs You’re Beıng Strung Along By A Player

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8 Clear Signs You’re Beıng Strung Along By A Player
8 Clear Signs You’re Beıng Strung Along By A Player

So, you’ve been seeing this guy for a while now and you’ve learned a lot about each other’s habits, wishes, dreams, and lifestyle.

Perhaps you even met his friends and family, and he’s told you all of his secrets and let you “explore his world.”

8 Clear Signs You’re Beıng Strung Along By A Player
8 Clear Signs You’re Beıng Strung Along By A Player

He probably likes your every post on social media and spending time with you is his number one priority.

It’s evident that you’re in love with each other and he’s the one for you.

Or maybe not?

When you look at his behavior more closely and from a more in-depth perspective, you realize that things are not as they seem.

He might be texting you regularly and never missing any of your phone calls, yet still be playing a cruel dating game – stringing you along.

So, the question is: Are you being strung along by a player, even though he genuinely seems like a nice guy and has persuaded you to believe otherwise?

You probably think that there’s no point in asking him anything about what you two have because if you do, you might appear too pushy, insecure, or childish. And you definitely don’t want that.

So, you ignore all of the red flags and warning signs and convince yourself that you just need more time to develop a serious relationship, or he just needs more time to see things more clearly and start matching his words with his actions.

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You think and do all of this because he made you to think so.

His every action has the specific purpose of making you believe that things are perfect, even though they’re actually far from it.

And by doing this, he’s just buying more time to keep stringing you along.

It’s time to open your eyes and see things as they are. If any of the following signs sound familiar to you, you’re being strung along by a player!

1. He avoids talking about the future
Unhappy angry woman talking to her boyfriend

You hang out, you laugh, you talk for hours on every topic under the sun, but there’s simply no mention about the future.

And whenever you try to take things to the next level, he’s simply not willing to participate and say what he really means.

You have no problems answering his every question, but you know that if you asked him about your future together, he wouldn’t be that pleased.

It’s evident that all he’s doing is applying the double standards rule and using you for an ego boost.

The more you’re scared of asking him questions about the future and where things are going, the more he’ll feel powerful and the one in control.

It’s clear that he’s a narcissist in disguise who is not interested in a long-term, healthy relationship.

Instead, the only thing he’s really keen on is taking you for granted and treating you like a choice instead of a priority, all the while patiently waiting for someone new to enter his life and replace you.

That’s the only reason why he’s neither willing to let you go nor to treat you the way you deserve.

By making you feel like you’re in limbo, he’s just buying time to keep treating you like shit and boost his self-esteem and egocentric nature.

2. He’s ghosting you and then popping back up only when it’s convenient
Man walking away on misty road

According to relationship experts, ghosting is one of the most frequent methods used by players, narcissists, and other “toxic crew.” Now, let me explain the concept of ghosting.

He’s planning dates, texting you back frequently, always calling you and then, all of a sudden, he stops planning anything (let alone dates), there’s silence on the texting front, and he backs out last minute and disappears into the unknown.

You don’t see him or hear from him for days, weeks, or even months.

During this period, you start losing your mind and revising everything you’ve ever said or done, thinking that the problem lies in you.

You convince yourself that you did something wrong and that’s the only reason for his sudden disappearance from your life.

And then, after the no contact period, he enters your life with a perfect excuse again, like nothing happened.

He even makes you feel sorry for him and his “misfortunes,” and if you start questioning his intentions, he’s even ready to accuse you of overreacting.

After ghosting you, he pops back up into your life only when it’s convenient for him – or put simply, when he has no one else to replace you.

It’s just how a player’s mind functions. If any of this sound familiar to you, you know that you’re being strung along, and it’s time to set new rules and save yourself!

3. He doesn’t accept you for who you are
Sad depressed thoughtful young woman feeling bad at home, upset millennial lonely girl thinking of sorrow, regrets of mistake or worries about having psychological problem sitting alone on sofa

He makes you feel guilty about your flaws, habits, and all those little things that make you who you are.

He makes you feel less worthy and constantly reminds you of only the negative things.

He’s not only unwilling to accept you for who you really are, he’s also comparing you with other women or an imaginary “perfect woman” that you should become.

He’s doing all of this because he’s frustrated and dissatisfied with himself in the first place.

Also, he doesn’t accept you for who you are in order to keep making you feel less worthy.

This is one of the most powerful strategies when it comes to deceit and manipulation.

By making you feel like shit and stringing you along, he’s making you more attached to himself, which is his main goal.

He needs to know that you’ll keep fighting for him and accepting him whenever he decides to come back into your life, no matter how bad he treated you.

It’s the only way for him to keep playing his dirty game and preserve the status of “an innocent man.”

4. Lack of meaningful communication
Couple not talking to each other while sitting in the kitchen

You no longer have eye-to-eye, inspiring, meaningful conversations with each other because he doesn’t even bother sharing anything with you about his life.

All you ever do is greet each other and continuing going about your routine.

There’s no deep connection, cuddling, or anything related to intimacy. Also, you go out of your way to ask him questions about his hobbies, friends, job, and other things only to make him talk and finally get some feedback.

But this never happens. The more you try to reach him, the more he pulls away, right?

The more you text him, the more he’s unwilling to text you back. The same goes with calls and everything else.

Then you start making excuses for his shitty behavior, thinking that this is how a relationship develops in the modern dating world. But deep down in your heart, you know that this isn’t true.

After that, you start looking for dating advice from your friends or online in order to find out what the hell’s actually going on.

And that is when you realize that you’re being strung along by a player who is not willing to lift a finger, let alone have a meaningful conversation with you or treat you with respect and dignity.

See also: Is He A Player? 13 Warning Signs A Man Isn’t Serious About You

5. He doesn’t bother introducing you to his friends and family
Woman sitting relaxed in bed

He never mentions his friends or any single member of his family, as if they don’t even exist.

And whenever you ask him to tell you more about them, he just avoids it like the plague and gets visibly confused or irritated about it.

You can’t think of any valid reason why he’d dodge introducing you to his friends and family because you’ve been having a good time together and everything seems perfect.

You expected that your relationship would flourish, that you’d finally include your friends and family into the story as well, but unfortunately that’s the last thing on his mind at the moment.

Why?

Because introducing you to his friends and family means entering the serious relationship zone, which is a big no-no for him, given that all he really wants is to continue treating you like an option – like someone that he’ll likely replace someday with someone else.

If this is happening to you, I’m sorry to tell you, but you’re being strung along by a player who doesn’t want anything serious with you and isn’t ready to show you proudly to his friends and family!

Trust me on this, a guy who’s ready to make you his, respect you, fight for you, and genuinely make an effort would never bypass introducing you to the people who matter to him.

6. He’s constantly disrespecting you
Photo of young sad quarrel loving couple sitting on sofa indoors. Looking aside.

Being strung along equals being constantly disrespected and forced to feel less worthy and unimportant.

There are many forms of disrespect and if he exhibits any of the following, you know that you’re being strung along for sure.

You know that it’s time to work a little bit more on self-love and appreciating yourself more:

He always lets you wait for him
He never listens to what you have to say to him
He always ensures you feel like you’re doing everything wrong
He always compares you to other people to prove that you’re not good enough
He’s constantly focused on pointing out your flaws, attitude, and all the “negative things” about you
He’s interested in you only when it comes to having sex with him
He constantly makes excuses for everything
He doesn’t make an effort to make you feel special
He always forgets things, dates, and everything else
All of these above are huge red flags and signs of the ultimate disrespect towards you.

It means that he knows he’s treating you like shit, and he still doesn’t have the decency to apologize for it, let alone make an effort to start treating you right.

It means he’s a player whose main job is stringing you along and making you believe that you’re the one who needs fixing, when you yourself know that the only person who needs serious fixing is himself.

7. You’re feeling lonely in the relationship
Disappointing Young Woman is Sitting in Depression on the Stone Parapet in the Gloomy Autumn Day

This one is a confusing feeling because you know you’re missing something, but you’re not quite sure what it is.

You might think you’re missing him because he’s never around or when he is, the only thing he does is ignore you, but the real truth is that you’re feeling lonely in the relationship because of something else.

You’re feeling lonely because you’re being strung along and probably not even aware of it.

And the most important thing you need to remember about it is that what you’re feeling is not real.

You’re feeling lonely because he made you feel that way so that he can control you better.

He’s never there for you only to make you need him more. He doesn’t give you compliments only to make you feel less worthy.

He’s not treating you with respect only to make you work harder to win it from him.

He convinces you that what you’re doing is wrong to prove that he’s the one who’s right – the one you can’t live without.

All of these influence you to feel lonely, sad, isolated, and lost in a relationship with a player.

All these are his main tools to make you feel trapped in your own body – like a prisoner of your own soul.

Stringing you along is his main agenda because he’s no intention of treating you the way you really deserve to be treated.

See also: 10 Differences Between A Player And A Forever Man

8. Your gut feeling is telling you that something’s terribly wrong
Woman standing in the park sunset looing in the sky ,silhouette

Do you have that inner feeling that something’s terribly wrong regarding his behavior and that you need to save yourself?

Do you have that little voice in your head telling you that you should run for your life because this is not something you signed up for in the beginning?

If yes, then your gut feeling is probably right about it. After all, your intuition is one of the most powerful forces in the universe and should not be ignored.

Our intuition tells us things that our mind can’t understand.

Like when we’re stuck in overthinking and making multiple excuses, without being aware that there’s actually nothing wrong with us because we’re being strung along – we’re the victim of a player.

Our intuition just helps us understand all of that. It motivates us to fight for our own happiness and the treatment that we deserve.

Final Thoughts
Lonely woman standing on the beach sunset

If any of the above signs ring true you can be sure you’re being strung along, and there’s no point in letting a player destroy you completely and continue feeding of your innocence and kindness.

It’s time to set boundaries and reset your priorities because the man (if he can even be called that) you’re with is simply not worthy of a second of your time.

Now, I don’t mean things will be easy for you the moment you leave him.

It’ll be hard because being strung along is one of the most exhausting and traumatizing things that can happen to someone.

It’ll be tough, but the longer you spend time apart from his toxic nature and with the people who truly care about you, the faster you’ll start healing.

And one day you’ll wake up and thank God that you finally left him.

You’ll thank your lucky stars that you saved yourself from the shackles of a player, because it was the only reasonable and right thing to do.

See also: 6 Bulletproof Ways To Get Over A Player

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