Love is the most complex of all emotions that human experiences. Not because it is formed of some otherworldly matter, but because it’s formed in our minds and keeping science away- in our hearts — and our minds are incredibly complex.
There isn’t any explanation for love, depending on the intensity it can be a language, a dream or mere feeling of affection. I won’t try to explain the idea of love here as that could take nights and hundreds of pages.
The affection we feel is not always for the person, sometimes it just for the idea of who they are. Our perception here plays a major role, often what we see in a person is not what they really are but what we perceive them to be or want them to be. And there is a big difference between loving someone and loving the perception of who they are or who you want them to be.
10 Signs you’re truly In Love with Your Partner and Not Just the Idea of them
1. You make up excuses to spend more time together
You feel at home whenever you’re together regardless of where you are. You throw off your sleep schedule and make other sacrifices of things that need to be done just to spend time with them.
Finally, when you crave to get ‘home’ from work, the home is a person and not a place. You find a solace in their presence, the kind of solace an infant found in its mother’s embrace.
The comfort and peace take you back to childhood where your bedroom seemed heavenly. You just want to be there, melt in their arms.
2. You strive to make yourself and them a better person.
When you’re in love, you put in efforts to become a better person, a person worthy of their love in return.
Also, you push your partner to excel, to become the best version of themselves. You have their back and through rough times you are there holding their hands. You’re constantly encouraging and supporting them to pursue their dreams and goals.
You are always there cheering for them and taking pride in their accomplishments and you’re always there to hold them when they fall, in a nutshell, you’re always there trying to push them to excel and bring the best in them.
3. You are content with your relationship.
You don’t go on comparing your relationship with other peoples’.
You no longer care about what other relationships are like, you are happy with what you have and are too busy enjoying to be concerned with inside dealing of other relationships.
There is no point in comparing your relationship with others; you are finally living in the wonders and excitement of your own love life.
4. You have left the past behind.
Often people tend to carry emotional baggage from the previous relationship. Many times they get into a relationship looking for escape from the hurts and pains of the previous relationship.
If you have left the past behind and hopped on this train to begin a new journey you sure in love with your partner. A relationship in which one of the partners is carrying the baggage from the past relationship is bound to suffer a disastrous fate.
5. You dream a future together
If you find yourself trying to figure out a way to build a future around them and your relationship you’re in love. You know you’re not fooling around and are serious about your relationship.
You know you’re serious about this person and he/she is not just any temporary entity at this point of time, you give importance to your relationship and use it as a foundation to build a future around it.
You set your goals and plan a bright future ahead with your partner in mind. You dream a future where in your partner is right by your side.
6. You still get your ‘me time’ and are completely fine with it.
Solitude is not loneliness, there is a big difference between being alone and being lonely. Every once in a while we need a ‘me time’.
A time dedicated to yourself where in you introspect your life, look at your mistakes and achievements and set goals, for introverts the point of recharge.
You know you aren’t completely depending on your relationship, if ever for some reason your partner cannot carter to your needs you have no issues taking care of yourself. You don’t constantly need your partner to carry you through the rough roads.
7. You don’t get the urge to show off your relationship to others.
We all know people who constantly depend on the validation of their social media followers and friends in their life. They do the same with a relationship.
They try hard to portray the perfect happy relationship they are in by constantly uploading pictures with love quotes, the funny thing is most of the times there is no bliss in the equation.
You don’t feel the need to do it, you don’t broadcast what is going on in your love life because you are happy and secure in your own romance. You know you’re happy and you don’t need the validation of others, your validation is more than enough.
8. You feel a little bit of jealousy but there is palpable trust in your relationship.
Your feelings of jealousy show you love someone enough to want to be exclusive with them.
Jealousy motivates people to engage in behaviors that maintain an important relationship – being a little jealous may give you to push you to need to cement this fling into something more serious. Some people definitely go overboard with jealousy and that can be damaging.
You have faith in your partner, and you value and trust them. The belief in your partner is there and you know that they are going to be beside you.
You never need to worry what your partner is doing when you are not there. The sense of surety is there that you cannot betray each other and have each other for life.
9. You no longer wonder what it would like to date someone else
You know what you’re doing and you’re no longer available for anyone out there.
You don’t care about the possibility of meeting better people because you know you’ve found the best possible person to be with already.
You are content and feel secure with what you have, you no longer wonder what it would be like to someone else.
No matter how hot girl/guy passes by, riches, beauty nothing interests you anymore. You are comfortable and happy with what you have, you don’t want any dark clouds of lust to hover your happy relationship.
10. You were thinking about one specific person while reading the list.
If there was a name or face of one specific person popping in your mind while you read this, you sir/ma’am are definitely in love.